Dressing for Walks in the Forest
A friend recently asked about my attire when I am dressed for a walk with my wife. Here was my response.
When dressed in public, regardless of the venue, I do my best to be as feminine as possible. I have a few friends who go out in public wearing a combination of male and female attire. One even wears female jewelry while dressed as a male.. Not me. I am either presenting as female or I am presenting as male.. Nothing in between.
While walking as Annette with my wife I wear femme walking shorts (capris if the weather is cool) and a matching top. I wear ladies walking shoes that are highlighted with pink designs. My socks are the low-cut type that are barely visible above the tops of my shoes. I wear breast forms, femme hair (some call it a wig), ear rings, a necklace, a watch, two bracelets, and a necklace. I also wear nail polish and makeup and do my best to act like a lady. I use only feminine gestures, speak using my female voice, walk like a female, and in all other ways act as feminine as possible. It is an experience that I truly enjoy. Walking through the forest as Annette talking with my wife and enjoying the scenery and the creatures we hear as we walk along is a blessing to both of us. We briskly cover four to six miles a day, so we are out from one to one-and-a-half hours. Contrasting those outings with walks I have made dressed but alone islike night and day. My alone walks are OK, but the conversation I have with my wife when she is along makes for a far better and more exhilarating experience. We humans are clearly social creatures.
Let me note that even though only a few people are on the trails my wife and I walk, we could be seen or heard as we round a bend or pass someone resting along the way. Acting or speaking as a male when I thought no one was around but my wife would take away from my being Annette. I am not sure I could do it anyway. I think such action would constitute a double standard. This viewpoint may seem at first blush to be a bit incongruous since I have duality of gender. Something significant though happens to me when I get dressed. A near total transformation takes place. It is as if a switch is flipped. I immediately change from male mannerisms and speech to female mannerisms and speech. I simply cannot be half and half. Amazingly to me, I do not even need to think about the transition; the change just occurs. Even with this transition, my wife still sees me as her husband. I am blessed in that regard. She is my bestfriend--and, yes, my lover, my life's partner, and my soul mate. I strive to treat her as such, too.
When I am out to dinner or to the theater with my wife while dressed as Annette, I wear femme clothing and jewelry appropriately to the occasion. On shopping trips, we consult with each other about everything--clothes, shoes, makeup, you name it. I don't know that we consider each other as girl friends, but we typically act in that way toward each other just the same. Honestly, she has a hard time using the correct pronouns when I am out dressed with her. That does not bother me. Once while we were in a shop together, she wanted me to see an item on display and called to me using my male name. A few people in the shop turned to look. I came to where she was and whispered in her ear, "Don't you mean Annette?" I think she was slightly embarrassed, but if others had second thoughts about my gender, we paid them no mind and went on about our business. Since everyone in the shop was a total stranger to us, it did not matter.
Regarding my masculinity when dressed in the company of my wife, I do not feel that I betray the male aspect of who I am in any way while in her company. For most of my life, I suppressed my femininity. I now believe it fitting that I should let more of my femininity display herself. Suppression of my female persona only created agony inside of me. I see no reason to perpetuate that undesirable condition. My wife understands and accepts the real me--her husband, a man who has a separate and distinct femininity. I do not think that at any time she has regarded my being out with her dressed as imposing a role of lesbianism on her. She is a heterosexual genetic female who is married to heterosexual transgendered male.
Love, Annette
When dressed in public, regardless of the venue, I do my best to be as feminine as possible. I have a few friends who go out in public wearing a combination of male and female attire. One even wears female jewelry while dressed as a male.. Not me. I am either presenting as female or I am presenting as male.. Nothing in between.
While walking as Annette with my wife I wear femme walking shorts (capris if the weather is cool) and a matching top. I wear ladies walking shoes that are highlighted with pink designs. My socks are the low-cut type that are barely visible above the tops of my shoes. I wear breast forms, femme hair (some call it a wig), ear rings, a necklace, a watch, two bracelets, and a necklace. I also wear nail polish and makeup and do my best to act like a lady. I use only feminine gestures, speak using my female voice, walk like a female, and in all other ways act as feminine as possible. It is an experience that I truly enjoy. Walking through the forest as Annette talking with my wife and enjoying the scenery and the creatures we hear as we walk along is a blessing to both of us. We briskly cover four to six miles a day, so we are out from one to one-and-a-half hours. Contrasting those outings with walks I have made dressed but alone islike night and day. My alone walks are OK, but the conversation I have with my wife when she is along makes for a far better and more exhilarating experience. We humans are clearly social creatures.
Let me note that even though only a few people are on the trails my wife and I walk, we could be seen or heard as we round a bend or pass someone resting along the way. Acting or speaking as a male when I thought no one was around but my wife would take away from my being Annette. I am not sure I could do it anyway. I think such action would constitute a double standard. This viewpoint may seem at first blush to be a bit incongruous since I have duality of gender. Something significant though happens to me when I get dressed. A near total transformation takes place. It is as if a switch is flipped. I immediately change from male mannerisms and speech to female mannerisms and speech. I simply cannot be half and half. Amazingly to me, I do not even need to think about the transition; the change just occurs. Even with this transition, my wife still sees me as her husband. I am blessed in that regard. She is my bestfriend--and, yes, my lover, my life's partner, and my soul mate. I strive to treat her as such, too.
When I am out to dinner or to the theater with my wife while dressed as Annette, I wear femme clothing and jewelry appropriately to the occasion. On shopping trips, we consult with each other about everything--clothes, shoes, makeup, you name it. I don't know that we consider each other as girl friends, but we typically act in that way toward each other just the same. Honestly, she has a hard time using the correct pronouns when I am out dressed with her. That does not bother me. Once while we were in a shop together, she wanted me to see an item on display and called to me using my male name. A few people in the shop turned to look. I came to where she was and whispered in her ear, "Don't you mean Annette?" I think she was slightly embarrassed, but if others had second thoughts about my gender, we paid them no mind and went on about our business. Since everyone in the shop was a total stranger to us, it did not matter.
Regarding my masculinity when dressed in the company of my wife, I do not feel that I betray the male aspect of who I am in any way while in her company. For most of my life, I suppressed my femininity. I now believe it fitting that I should let more of my femininity display herself. Suppression of my female persona only created agony inside of me. I see no reason to perpetuate that undesirable condition. My wife understands and accepts the real me--her husband, a man who has a separate and distinct femininity. I do not think that at any time she has regarded my being out with her dressed as imposing a role of lesbianism on her. She is a heterosexual genetic female who is married to heterosexual transgendered male.
Love, Annette
posted by Annette @ 7/13/2008 06:12:00 PM
1 Comments:
At 7:16 PM,
Anonymous said…
I'm not a total male or female but I much more prefer my fem side and I'm not ashamed to show it....so when I'm out in male mode I'm not afraid to let people know I have another side to me, been there, done that for too long, never more!
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